Many people question what love is. It’s a feeling…yes, that’s all I have for you. I can’t explain it any better than anyone who has truly felt it. I believe that it is something deep, that exists in your very soul.

People convince themselves that they’re in love for a lot of reasons…they need a refuge…they are afraid of being alone…they fear never finding that special someone, so it seems better to settle for what’s in front of you. For me, love is worth more than that.

But how do you know that you’re in love? I’ve been in love, in lust, and I have loved…but I cannot answer that question. It’s different for each individual, but there’s always something…some way that you can tell. For me, love is extreme and all consuming, and these are the most important ways I personally know when I’m in love with a woman:

When the thought of a single day going by without hearing the sound of her voice makes you cringe inside.

When the sight of her crying makes you seriously think about causing the culprit a world of pain…even if it’s you.

When you spend hours driving around to find that one thing you know she likes, for no reason other than just because.

When you hear a love song on the radio and feel like your heart is ready to burst because of all the emotion that you feel for her right at that moment.

When you find yourself giving up the remote, even though you’ve been waiting for this all week, just to see a smile on her face.

When you watch her sleeping and tears come to your eyes because she is just so beautiful, and you wonder what in the hell you did to be so lucky.

When you would happily take on someone three times your size to defend her honor, as long as she’s there to take care of the bruises.

When you slave all day in a hot kitchen to make her favorites, even though you know she would have settled for pizza.

When you find yourself wondering what it would be like to wake up next to her…to hold her…every morning.

When you still kiss her, even though she has the flu and you just know that you’re going to get it too, but you’re not about to have her think that you don’t want to be near her.

When nothing that you do seems like a sacrifice because you know that you’re doing it for her.